Hands off Santa!
As Christmas is approaching, children are eagerly waiting for Santa to deliver their coveted gifts. However, there’s an increasing number of adults who insist in revealing the truth about Santa in the name of ‘valuing honesty’. Some of you may have come across ‘expert advice’ claiming that parents should be radically truthful to their children about Santa in order to avoid a future sense of deception and loss of trust. I disagree. I am no party pooper and here’s why.
Do you regret childhood Santa memories?
Think about your childhood. Do you regret believing in Santa and running towards the Christmas tree on Christmas day to claim your presents? Are you traumatized by the grand deception of the Santa myth your parents perpetuated or do you love them even more for the lovely memories they offered? When you reminisce over Christmas past, do you not feel nostalgic? And what is nostalgia other than a confirmation of a worthwhile experience along with an underlying desire of reliving it – if not just for a little bit? The fact you later discovered it was lie did not undo the benefits of those heart-warming memories.
And those of you who are parents, do you regret experiencing such moments with your children? Do not forget that they are your forever memories too.
The lies that damage your relationship with your children are the ones that make them doubt your unconditional love, your willingness to support them and foster a sense of security and self-esteem
Don’t fret over those type of lies. The lies that damage your relationship with your children are the ones that make them doubt your unconditional love, your willingness to support them and foster the sense of security & self-esteem every child needs. I am more concerned about the lies and deceits we had to endure these last couple of years. The time will come that they will be exposed to truly dangerous lies. Hopefully, they will do a better job than we did at detecting and rejecting them.
Till them, keep your hands off Santa!
Allow them to be kids while they still can and experience all that a happy childhood represents.